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This is directed at women, even if he’s abusive and literally a killer, you have to stay married. If you get divorced you commit adultery, which obviously is worse than murder, and so if you do separate from him physically, you cannot pursue a relationship with another man. This is about cuckolding other guys more than it is about maintaining the sanctity of marriage.

This type of talking is getting more popular lately. Telling women that even if he’s abusive, you can’t divorce. There is also another conversation that happens, a little quieter and with fewer ears, that tells men that if their wives are unfaithful, be it cheating or not providing for his needs, men can divorce their wives. There’s scripture to back up this position, though I’m not one to memorize Bible verses. It’s most certainly a double standard based on the biblical worldview of women being chattel for men.

Look at Steven Crowder, he’s fighting no-fault divorce while his wife is fighting to get away from his abusive, controlling self. There are lots of folks in his circle that are targeting no-fault divorce because it is mainly utilized by women to get away from men. It allows women to take control over their lives, whereas before men had all the control, they could leave wives on a whim and the wives would be stuck begging for help. There’s a push to get back to traditional marriage that goes beyond not allowing LGBT people to marry whomever they love. They’re pushing for women to go back to being completely dependent on men, to be unable to provide financially for themselves, to purchase big ticket items without a man to sign off, to plan their families, and such. It seems like fringe thinking now, but the right is devious in that they don’t need immediate wins. They chip away, and chip away, until the dam breaks, like they did with Roe. It doesn’t matter that their plans are unpopular, they are popular with the right people. Abortion is something that has majority support, but we can’t protect it by being the majority (or even being right) because there are people high enough in our government to wipe it away with a stroke of a pen, so too is the rights of women to buy houses, hold credit cards, get divorced, live alone if they decide to deny these things. The Equality Act would have protected women from this ages ago, but we haven’t been able to enshrine our humanity into the law of the land because some powerful people do not agree that we are human.

Okay, sorry for the rant. I’m sure I have more to say but I have to get to work.

Women are people.

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And WHY aren't women allowed to divorce their husbands? Because that would mean that 𝗔 𝗪𝗢𝗠𝗔𝗡 𝗜𝗦 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗘𝗤𝗨𝗔𝗟 𝗢𝗙 𝗔 𝗠𝗔𝗡 𝗜𝗡 𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗠𝗦 𝗢𝗙 𝗥𝗜𝗚𝗛𝗧𝗦.

And Duncan Dipshit just COULDN'T deal with that (poor baby).

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Jul 24, 2023·edited Jul 24, 2023

Hey, Duncan "Pure Turds" Urbanek...

Your own Jesus said that sexual immorality was grounds for divorce. So you are WRONG. What's the matter? Don't you read your own bible? Not even the gospels?

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As much à coté de la plaque he is, he involuntary has a point. DM never divorced from my asshole deadbeat father for two reasons who have nothing ro do with her being raised catholic. First she tried to press charge for abuse when I was very young (80's), she was told she needed a document signed by a doctor. She went to one and "Madame, I have no proof you didn't do that to yourself to slander your husband". The second reason was after we left his sorry ass for good when I was about 20 and got my second diploma* from my high school. She learned something since her first try, had she left him and filed for divorce not only he would have had our adress** but if I was a minor and she attempted to protect me from him she could have been arrested for kidnapping. His whole family would have said he was the wronged party because men are ALWAYS right.

* Not a typo I was in a high school where you learned a trade and could have a diploma every two years (BEP, Bac pro, BTS).

** What could go wrong with your abuser knowing where you live ?

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Jul 24, 2023·edited Jul 24, 2023

Is this guy married? If so, I fear for his wife's well-being. It's a headline waiting to happen.

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Completely bonkers. An agreement against the urge of biology, cooked in the boiling morass of ancient beliefs of supernatural beings, contrary to even common sense must be kept...for what? Because of textualism?! I take it back; it's not bonkers, it's childlike. This preacher is a child, a toddling baby. Yes, he dangerous, like a fully grown three year old hopped up on Pixie Sticks throwing a tantrum because nobody is following daddy's rules. But he's still a baby. Unable to grasp his own or any other's independence in this universe, his own personhood without reference to tracts plagiarized from other religions founded by scared, hut dwelling, barely civilized people, to separate himself from Dad/God because he's scared. Like a baby would be scared.

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The preachers can talk about their loving Jesus and the glorious afterlife from now on, but there is nothing they crave so much as power and control in this world. In my view, his enablers in the pews are every bit as bad as he is. They keep him funded. If you want to see what genuine persecution looks like, hand power to the preachers.

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Just as a reminder, this is the same twist that prayed for “every homo that exists” to suffer “a slow, painful death.” You may remember him from back in February of this year:

https://www.friendlyatheist.com/p/christian-hate-preacher-prays-that/

What I wouldn't give to see someone confront him about this crap.

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Has Hemant been following the news about the serial killer that recently got arrested in New York? Because that murderer's wife recently filed for divorce...

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/gilgo-beach-serial-killings-suspect-rex-heuermann-wife-files-divorce/

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Jul 24, 2023·edited Jul 24, 2023

No one gonna say it? OK, I will. This Duncan is a real yo-yo.

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OT : news about DM. She received antibiotics by I.V. The needles caused so many bruises/hematoma on her arm that it was switched with pills. She is still battling her infections but she is getting better physically. Morally she is depressed since she has no idea when she will be discharged.

I had an infection on my back which took weeks to heal for good and it was less severe than hers 😒

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He says: "𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘣𝘪𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘯."

I hear: "𝘐'𝘮 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘪𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘢𝘨𝘴 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸."

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Jul 25, 2023·edited Jul 25, 2023

And Christians wonder why the religion is being devastated by falling attendance and disgruntled former worshipers abandoning a sinking ship.

Take a look at this guy, Christians. Listen to what he's saying, the ideas expressed. The mindset. Do you begin to grasp the magnitude of the problem? Now multiply that across the country. Because Christian pastors like him are a franchise, like McDonald's. These anti-social maniacs represents your religion. They represents YOU.

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founding

"Even in that extreme situation, you still don't have the ability to get divorced. ...And that's why you young people, you had better be very, very cautious who you decide to marry…"

Yeah, so make sure you learn all about their religious views before the first date. Religious? Bye.

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This man has gone extra-biblical. Jesus said you could divorce if your spouse committed adultery.

I also noticed he didn't actually say a man couldn't file for divorce

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IANAL, but I believe that as long as you are married, you are (partly?) responsible for your partner's debts. That would be another good reason to get a divorce.

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