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Troublesh00ter's avatar

There's a term that was in the vernacular back in the early days of feminism: Male Chauvinist Pig. Seems to me as though that label applies pretty aptly to the decision makers for the VCA football team, never mind a few others I'm sure we all could think of, given a minute or two.

The girls on the opposing teams doubtless understand the nature of the game they have chosen to involve themselves in, and they have certainly trained themselves for it. In addition, their teammates work with and support them, even as they do the same, I am certain. Meanwhile, the VCA wants to live in the age of Father Knows Best and Ozzie and Harriet, and are either unable or unwilling to extricate themselves from those bygone sensibilities.

It might just be time for that particular conference to tell the VCA that, until their attitude changes, they will no longer be welcome to compete, FULL STOP. Might just wake 'em up.

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He added that they train their boys to “rigorously to admire and value women as precious and worthy of respect.”

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No, you don't. You might intend to do that. But what you're really teaching your boys is that girls are the Other. That girls are objects to be feared and prized. They can't be touched in any way because doing so might make you impure, so you associate them in the minds of the boys with both sex and sin. You don't emphasize their individuality. You don't emphasize their qualities. You just emphasize that they are objects of forbidden lust to be avoided or feared or desired like the forbidden fruit.

You churn out generation after generation of young men who objectify women and never truly see them as equal persons deserving of respect for their personhood and abilities.

I know this because it's taken me several years of my life to try to deprogram myself from the toxic teachings people like you passed on to me to see women first as equal individuals and not as objects of desire to be "cherished", used, and put on a shelf by their male "owners".

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